Happy Sunday!
We went to church Wednesday night. Bishop Joseph W. Walker III from Mount Zion Baptist Church in Nashville, Tennessee was our special guest. He and his wife, Dr. Stephanie Walker are on a "Relationship Tour".
This information is so good, I couldn't wait to share it with you.
Bishop Walker explained God's Intent for Relationships. When God formed Adam from the dust, the spirit of Eve was inside him. He didn't take Eve out of Adam until Adam had purpose and a job! He gave Adam the task of naming all of the "beasts". Adam named every beast. He never saw a beast and considered that that beast could be his mate. Perhaps, you have had some "beasty" relationships. Relationships that make you wonder, "What was I thinking?" Just Praise God that those "beasty" relationships make you appreciate the God ordained relationship. Adam knew that his mate needed specific characteristics. When the time was right God put Adam to sleep and pulled out one of his ribs. God closed the incision quickly, and formed the woman from the rib. God didn't need Adam's help. When Adam awoke, he saw Eve and said...“Finally! Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh! Name her Woman for she was made from Man.” Genesis 2.:23 (Message Translation)
From that time and even now, our enemy has been working against relationships. He took on the form of a snake and found the weak point in Adam and Eve's relationship. The Strength of the Man is VISION, and the Strength of the Woman is TALKING. Adam was busy looking at something else, not realizing Eve wanted to talk. The enemy talked to Eve, and was able to sow his seeds of discord.
We went to church Wednesday night. Bishop Joseph W. Walker III from Mount Zion Baptist Church in Nashville, Tennessee was our special guest. He and his wife, Dr. Stephanie Walker are on a "Relationship Tour".
This information is so good, I couldn't wait to share it with you.
Bishop Walker explained God's Intent for Relationships. When God formed Adam from the dust, the spirit of Eve was inside him. He didn't take Eve out of Adam until Adam had purpose and a job! He gave Adam the task of naming all of the "beasts". Adam named every beast. He never saw a beast and considered that that beast could be his mate. Perhaps, you have had some "beasty" relationships. Relationships that make you wonder, "What was I thinking?" Just Praise God that those "beasty" relationships make you appreciate the God ordained relationship. Adam knew that his mate needed specific characteristics. When the time was right God put Adam to sleep and pulled out one of his ribs. God closed the incision quickly, and formed the woman from the rib. God didn't need Adam's help. When Adam awoke, he saw Eve and said...“Finally! Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh! Name her Woman for she was made from Man.” Genesis 2.:23 (Message Translation)
From that time and even now, our enemy has been working against relationships. He took on the form of a snake and found the weak point in Adam and Eve's relationship. The Strength of the Man is VISION, and the Strength of the Woman is TALKING. Adam was busy looking at something else, not realizing Eve wanted to talk. The enemy talked to Eve, and was able to sow his seeds of discord.
What Every Christian Man really wants in a mate...
1) Anchored - Men want a woman whose anchored and not "spooky". Bishop Walker recounted the time after his first wife passed away. He waited several years, then began to date. He said women would say, "God told me you are my husband", "The Spirit of the Lord has really favored me", and a host of other silly things. Men want a spiritual woman, not a spooky woman.
2) Attitude - Men want a woman with a good attitude. Most women can trace their pain back to a man. It could have been a father that didn't provide a covering, an abusive spouse, or a relationship that went badly. Men want a woman that won't expect him to pay the bill for emotional debt he didn't cause. Proverbs 27:15 says, "A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can’t turn it off, and you can’t get away from it." (Message Translation) Proverbs 21:19 say, "Better to live in a tent in the wild than with a cross and petulant spouse." (Message Translation)
3) Authentic - Men want authenticity! No Fakes! Proverbs 31 says, "Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God." (Message Translation)
4) Adaptability - Men want women who can adapt. He wants to know you are with him in the mansion and you will be with him in the studio apartment as well.
5) Academic - Men want women with brains! No man wants a stupid woman, at least not as a lifelong mate. Bishop Walker said, "You may not have a PhD, but a GED is a good start,"
6) Ambition - Men want a woman with ambition! Busy understands busy! Proverbs 31 says, "First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started." (Message Translation)
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started." (Message Translation)
7) Assistance - Men want a woman who can assist them. Genesis 2:18 says, God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.” (Message Translation)
8) Affirmation - Men want to be affirmed. They want to know when they get it right! Even God will one day affirm us, "Well done, thou good and faithful servant..." Matthew 25:21 (King James Version)
9) Appearance - Men are visual! Men enjoy looking at beautiful things. Men want women that are conscious and concerned about their appearance.
10) Affection - Men want affection. Physical and emotional. Bishop Walker used this example, " A wife knows her husband has to work this evening. She cooks his favorite meal and dessert. He is so full and satisfied. He drives to work. He passes all of the restaurants and fast food joints. He has no desire to stop in and get something, because he was full and satisfied when he left home." Selah. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex." (Message Translation)
What Every Christian Woman really wants in a mate...
1) Christian - Women want authentic, spiritual, prayerful men. A man that is not ashamed to Worship and is submitted to God.
2) Communicate - Women want a man that can communicate. He needs to be able to use the King's English as well as understand her. It's important to know that men and women have different communication styles. Men have the period communication style; meaning that after the event, argument, or heated discussion has ended he believes that it's over...period. Women have the process communication style; meaning long after the event, argument, or heated discussion the woman is still processing the information and comparing those past events to current situations.
3) Capacity - Women want a man with the capacity to improve and do better. Women want a man with "Drive".
4) Career - Women want a man who his gainfully employed or successfully entrepreneurial or both!
5) Credit - Women want a man with Good Credit, which speaks to his Integrity.
6) Credible - Women want a man with credibility, which means Honesty.
7) Clothing - ZZ Topp sang, "Every girl's crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man!" Women want a man that is conscious of, and concerned about his appearance.
8) Chivalrous - Chivalry is defined as "the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms". Women want that!
9) Compassionate - Women want men that are compassionate. Jesus was the greatest example! He was living the purpose driven life but he found time to stop and heal the sick, raise the dead and feed the hungry.
10) Charisma - Bishop Walker called this "Swagger". Women want a man who is confident in his skills and abilities.
There was so much more that Bishop Walker said...Happy Sunday is not long enough to write it all. I hope that you were able to use at least one piece of this awesome message. Married or single, this information can be useful in the present or in the future. If Bishop Walker brings the Relationship Tour to your city, I hope you are able to attend.
Love and prayers, Cynthia
